Dear Dottie: Why Aren’t Working Women In Your New Homemaking Book?

Tuesday, May 7, 2013 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie: Why Aren’t Working Women In Your New Homemaking Book?

Dear Dottie,

I was looking through The Christian Homemaker’s Handbook in the bookstore yesterday. It looks like a wonderful resource, but I noticed something missing. No where in the book (and I just checked the Table of Contents on Amazon to be sure) is there a chapter for women who work outside the home. These women may be single, they may be married, they may be mothers.  I know Southwestern Seminary employs many of them.  Yet, this book has no advice, wisdom, or encouragement for those who are having to balance their homemaking with outside jobs and/or school. I understand and agree with the Biblical stance on women being homeward oriented, I can do the Greek word studies of oikourgous (homemakers).  Yet, my weary heart, as a homemaker, almost full-time employee, part-time pastor’s wife, full time student, and 24/7 wife, asks – why did you leave me out of the book?

I am physically not at home enough to make the home I would wish for my husband.  My heart longs to be more of, and a better homemaker, yet for now I have to choose contentment and satisfaction with the multiple roles God has given me, homemaker being just one. I know many women employed outside the home struggle with keeping up both responsibilities, since generally, in most homes, even if the wife works outside the home she’s still responsible for upwards of 70% of the cleaning/cooking, etc in the home as well as her part or full time job. What hope can you give for the heart of women who want to make a home, but either don’t have a family, or financially cannot be in their home like they want/need in order to accomplish that task?

Sincerely,

Exhausted & Hand-tied

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Dear Dottie, What are Your Travel Tips?

Tuesday, March 12, 2013 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie, What are Your Travel Tips?

Dear Dottie,
I’m preparing for my first mission trip! Actually, it’s my first time to ever travel out of the country. I’m excited (a little nervous) and a little overwhelmed at all that I will need to bring with me. I heard that you travel all the time. In fact, I heard that you don’t even check a bag when you go overseas! Would you mind sharing your strategy for packing your suitcase?

Sincerely,

Getting Ready

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Dear Dottie: Should I Hold Off on Having Children?

Tuesday, February 5, 2013 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie: Should I Hold Off on Having Children?

Dear Dottie,

My husband and I decided that, until he is finished with his education, I would work full time to support us. I have a great job that pays the bills and I’m happy to work during this season. While we both want to start a family, my job prevents us from having children for at least a few years. My husband would love for me to quit working and stay home, but it would just be financially impossible during this season. Practically, it all makes logical sense, but I can’t help but wonder if I’m really doing the best thing. Am I right to postpone having children? Thanks for your insight!

 

Sincerely,
Wondering

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Dear Dottie: How Do I Start New Habits in My Relationship with God?

Tuesday, January 8, 2013 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie: How Do I Start New Habits in My Relationship with God?

Dear Dottie,

Every January, I set out to read through the Bible in a year or keep up a prayer journal but by mid-February I feel I’ve fallen too far behind to ever catch up. I truly want to grow in the spiritual disciplines in my life but always seem to fizzle out and get discouraged. How do I overcome these habits and cultivate new patterns in my life?

Sincerely,

Frustrated

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Dear Dottie, from a Not-So-Domestic Diva

Monday, November 5, 2012 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie, from a Not-So-Domestic Diva

Dear Dottie,

I hear so many women talk about hospitality and frankly, it just sounds intimidating! I feel an incredible pressure to make everything go off without a hitch – getting my house perfectly clean, planning and preparing a dinner, all while not making other people feel stressed by how stressed out I am! I want my home to be an inviting place for others, but I feel so inadequate to entertain guests. Am I expecting too much?

Sincerely,

A Not-So-Domestic Diva

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Dear Dottie, How Do I Heal After a Miscarriage?

Tuesday, October 2, 2012 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie, How Do I Heal After a Miscarriage?

Dear Dottie,

I’ve been married for three years now and have been wanting to start having children. About four months ago, I discovered that I was pregnant and I was elated! But my happiness ended when last month I miscarried my baby. I’ll spare you the details, but it was awful. The dream of finally being a mommy, how I could see my whole life changing – it all came to this horrible halt.

My heart is broken. I keep wondering what I should have done differently. People are trying to be supportive but most of what they say has me burying myself even deeper into pain. Even my husband doesn’t know what to say. I’m terrified of getting pregnant again only to go through all of this again. I know this is wrong thinking, but I can’t help but wonder if this wasn’t some kind of consequence for something in my past.

I feel like I’m stuck in a fog of grief that I can’t outrun and all I can do is pray, cry, and mourn. How do I pick up these pieces?

~Brokenhearted

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Dear Dottie, I Feel Too Independent to be Married!

Thursday, September 6, 2012 by Dorothy Kelley Patterson

Dear Dottie, I Feel Too Independent to be Married!

Dear Dottie,

What advice would you give women who are transitioning from singleness to marriage?  Unlike my parents, the Lord did not give me the opportunity to marry while I was young.  I’m in my late 20s and my husband is in his late 30s. We are both college educated, were independently successful.  Now, I find everything changing: my name, where I wake up in the morning, when I wake up in the morning, how I spend my time, where my priorities are, my focus on outside relationships/family/friendships, my ministry, my calling, my education.  It’s shifting from “me,” “my”, “mine” to “ours.”  It’s a good transition, but it’s hard.  I feel lost at times, like I’m not sure who I am any more or what to do with myself.  I know this is just a phase, but I would love advice on how to shift from being a content, independent, productive single woman to a Godly wife.

~Ms. Independent

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